WHY MEN MARRY SOME WOMEN AND NOT OTHERS
God knows it’s already hard enough for a woman to get a serious man to marry her. I doubt that your current motivation for finding a nice husband will lead you down the path of marriage or even true love, but I try to give my advice.
Here it’s :
- Play the probability game. According the studies quoted in relationship, the prime “commitment age “ for a man is between 28 and 33. If he’s been to grad school, give him to up age 36.From age 37 up, a divorced man is more likely to be open to marriage than a bachelor the same age. If his friends and siblings are already married, he’s more likely to marry too.
- Ask yourself , what have you got to offer? “Fun“ and “Forever” are two different things. When a man’s looking for fun, almost any woman will do. Most guys will probably admit to having dated a woman they thought was psychotic, stupid, or just not right, for longer intended- just because she was “fun”.
Men who’re wife-hunting want a woman they’ll be proud to introduce to their mum, their buddies, their boss-in other words, a true lady. That’s why you hear of cases where guy picks up girl in a bar, dates her for years, suddenly dumps her. And six months later weds someone the total opposite of her.
If your target a man is some bigshot , a pleasant looking, intelligent, well-brought up and refined wife enchances his professional image, lending him an air of respectability. Your’s just not the right pedigree. So don’t waste your time chasing them, they might drag you to bed, but not down the aisle.
- Start reinventing yourself, it’s been most men only start to consider marriage after they get tired of the singles scene. Which explains why you decade of bar-hopping hasn’t got you anywhere close to holy matrimory. Time for you rethink your hunting grounds, and explore new places to meet guys who’re looking for more than drink and a shag.
- Stop treating him like ATM, many woman see nothing wrong in asking people they’ve barely met five minutes ago how much rent they pay, what they earn, and what their car/holiday/watch costs. But most man consider such financial discussions off-putting, so much so that is may be the first and last conversation they’ll ever have with you.
- Spot the duds. Some really obvious signs that you’re just wasting your time :
· You’re usually the one calling him
· He only calls you for sex or because he’s bored
· He says he’s not looking for a serious relationship
· He’s still having sex with other girls
· He has many, many plans that don’t include you
- Face the Facts. Men often marry women whose backgrounds-religion, politics, values, socio-economic status-match their. Failing which, it might help if you are a dazzling beauty or a famous artist/singer/dancer. Since all you seem to be looking for are the superficial trappings of a USA lifestyle, you’ll probably end up with a shallow creep. I hope for your sake that when the first blush of your youth is gone, and your boobs start heading south, he’ll still stick around. Especially when there are bound to be other girls like this waiting in the wings.
